When you’re just getting to know someone, it can be difficult to refrain from looking like you’re head over heels. Sure, they’ve given you their number and work schedule, but it’s important to remember that you have your own life. Beyond your infatuation with this new person, there are plenty of other things in your life that are important, and they should remain important. When you completely immerse yourself in a new person and fall head over heels, you run the risk of scaring them away. You’ll end up looking desperate and they won’t want to be with you.
Today, New Jersey Singles reviews the top five ways people kill a relationship before it ever gets off the ground.
1. Wanting to Spend Time with Them 24/7
Sure, you might have a few days off next week or just have a lot of free time on your hands, but that doesn’t mean they do too. Don’t make it a habit of texting them whenever you get off work or you run the risk of scaring them away. Wanting to spend time together 24/7 is no way to show interest. The best thing you can do is make sure you have a balanced life. Your time is precious, so fill it with hobbies and interests and don’t revolve your life around them.
2. Wanting to Know Their Whereabouts
When your new man or woman tells you they’re going out with their friends, don’t bother them. They’re going out to have fun. If you call or text them, you’re bothering them. Look, we get it, you want to spend as much time as you can with them, but by constantly calling or texting them, you’re coming off as desperate. Demanding to know their whereabouts is also not right. They don’t need to explain to you what they’re doing, who they’re with, or when they’ll be home.
3. Being Insecure
You might find yourself getting a little jealous every time they hit the town or over the fact that they have attractive coworkers. You might even be leaving aggressive comments on their Facebook wall. Stop doing things like this because you’re scaring them away by making yourself look jealous and insecure. Remember that they picked you for a reason, so stop being insecure and overreacting.
4. Getting Too Cozy Too Soon
You like this new person and are falling head over heels for them, but you still shouldn’t get so comfortable so soon. Going to their condo to clean it—doing their dishes, mowing their grass, and assuming all the marital duties—could scare your date away or make them think they have you wrapped around their finger. Getting too comfortable so quickly is a recipe for disaster. Go enjoy your hobbies and interests and pursue the things you love. Your clinginess is ruining this relationship.
5. Talking About Marriage
You just started dating this person two months ago and are already talking about getting married. We understand that it’s important for you to know their long-term relationship goals, but talking about your ring size, how many children you’ll have, and where you’ll buy a house is only going to scare them away.
6. Stalking Them on Facebook
When you do a background check on your new love interest, you’re bound to find things you shouldn’t and bringing them up in conversation will make you look like a stalker. Telling them you know their best friend’s name, where they grew up, or what they did a year ago to date is not going to impress them. Oh, no, it’s going to scare them away. Sure, you’re dying to know all those little details, but refrain from stalking them on Facebook. Let them tell you those things personally.
Are you having troubles maintaining a relationship, or getting one started to begin with? Then you might be guilty of doing the six things our matchmakers mentioned above. If you want to maintain a healthy relationship, it’s time to let go of these bad habits that are surefire relationship killers.
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