Being single during the holidays is very depressing, especially when you’re whole family is badgering you about your single status and why this is the fourth Christmas in a row that you’ve been single. Plus, tis the season for endless holiday parties and dinners where everyone basically has a date but you. At least you can eat all you want, right? But as lonely as the holiday season might seem, it’s better than rushing into a new relationship to avoid feeling lonely.
Today, New Jersey Singles reviews why you shouldn’t rush a new relationship during the holidays.
1. They’re likely to meet your family too soon.
Introducing your new love interest to your parents is hard enough on its own, but when you bring someone new to a holiday function there’s a good chance they’ll have to meet your entire family, which will also include nosy Aunt Tori. Are they ready for that? Are you ready for the unwanted barrage of questions that’s sure to come while home for the holidays?
2. You’ll have to meet their family.
The only thing worse than being judged by their parents for a night is being judged by their entire family. Chances are they’ll like you, but it’s definitely a huge commitment. It’s one of those things that couples wait a while to do. If you’re still learning about them, it might be too soon to go to their family get togethers.
3. You’ll have to buy them presents.
Money is always tight during the holiday season. The last thing you need to worry about is getting someone new a gift. Buying the right present for your mom can be tough enough, and you’ve known her your entire life. Just think about how stressful it will be to buy for someone who you’re just getting to know and figure out. That stressful shopping experience should be avoided for now.
4. Do you really know them well enough to bring them to a work party?
It’s uncomfortable enough to have a few drinks with your boss and senior executives—those all-important people to impress. There’s nothing like alcohol to help you do something embarrassing that everyone will be talking about the next day. If you’re just meeting your new love interest, you might not know how they act under the influence. What if they get on the table at your Christmas party? For the sake of your future career you might want to go alone.
5. The honeymoon stage will be cut short.
Those first few months when everything is new and exciting is perhaps the best part of a new relationship. But if you start dating someone new around the holidays, you’ll end up meeting their parents, buying them a gift, and maybe sleeping in the same room as your new love interest. That’s just too much too soon. You’ll cover all the early milestones too quickly and rush through them without actually enjoying them.
6. You might not feel comfortable eating so much in front of them.
Christmas dinners are known for being feasts. This is the time when everyone overindulges with delicious dishes and desserts. It’s true, everyone eats without regret over the holidays. Are you comfortable eating that much in front of your partner? Do you want to feel stuffed, bloated, and cranky when you’re trying to put your best foot forward in this new relationship?
7. You have to go to their events too.
Talk about over packing your holiday calendar! You already have enough events of your own to attend, but now you’ll have to go to theirs too. Ugh, need we say more?
8. There’s a lot of pressure to get serious.
Meeting their parents or high school friends should happen naturally—usually after a few months of serious dating. But if you start dating around the holidays, you’re expected to join them at all functions. That’s a lot of pressure to get serious fast.
Remember that there’s nothing wrong with riding solo for the holidays. The worst thing you can do is rush into a new relationship to avoid feeling lonely. Don’t ever bring someone into your life unless you seriously see a future with them.
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